Page 75, a big black box in the middle of the page tells us that “an unusual sexual practice is likely harmless, unless it is the only thing that turns you on.”  WTF?  The author goes on to say that “ a little bit of kink is a good thing but [that too much] will get in the way of the relationship.”  Then it goes on to talk about how to “cure” a porn addict.

Here is the problem with this:

Kinky people are normal.  This article suggests that experts think that we are not.  I know a lot about kink so I am entitled to speak about this.  Many people who are not really kinky want to try it out.  Maybe they want to please their partners, maybe they are bored with the vanilla sex that they regularly have, maybe they are simply curious what all the fuss is about.  Possibly, they are just wondering if wearing a big pair of boots will make their husbands fuck them properly.  Maybe the boots will do it.  Depends on the relationship and the sexuality of the husband.  It is not normal to be curios about it and abnormal to actually be into it.  Period.

The thing is that when you are first coming into kink you might want to try it all and see what does it for you.  As you progress in your experience and your fantasies they seem, for a lot of us, to bottleneck.  That is the fantasies of adults seem to become more and more specific as time goes on.

Sure, sometimes things changes and you might go from loving stockings to loving latex,.  But I have never met a pervert who didn’t have an almost obsessive like quality to his kink.  When he is making love to his wife he is thinking about the one true thing that gets him off.   Be it boots, cross-dressing, rubber, golden showers, or gay sex.
It’s not a mother fucking salad bar, it’s our sexuality.  Everyone is different, everyone is normal, and everyone has a right, and indeed a responsibility, to seek out partners who have compatible sexual preferences.  If kink gets in the way of your relationship you need to work on your relationship or find a new one.  Some of the most intimate, passionate, and loving relationships are based on sexual preferences.

I know exactly what I like in my sex.  If some therapist came up to me and told me that she could cure me I would likely deck her.  I don’t want to be cured, I enjoy sex -- a lot.  Thank you, but isn’t the idea of curing someone's sexual preference something akin to what Focus On The Family has been doing to gay people for years now?  Why is it an acceptable idea that we can go in and rearrange the sexuality of people.  You can never make a gay person straight.  You can never make a kinky person vanilla.  Please stop trying – it offends me.

That post turned into an epic, so I moved my rambling over here to a new entry.

Let me state first that everything I’ve written here is me, not me repeating anything Domina Amanda has said. This doesn't really have anything to do with her. These are only my thoughts.

I’m not into feminization myself, and I’m not saying that to hide a closet attraction. I’m not making fun of the whole sissy boy thing either, but it does seem strange to me. I’m not planning to ridicule it or question its validity at all all, I’m really just wondering about it and those into it.

What makes them interested in this. I know for some its to do with nature, while others a sexual fetish, and perhaps for some it’s a mix of both. I don’t think my thoughts and questions are so much towards the general transgender crowd, I’ll try to explain what I’m thinking.

I suppose I can see why some guys are into dressing like women. Some might be gay or bisexual, others might have a shemale fantasy where they are sorta both (I think the correct word is transgender or transvestite but I‘ve never seen shemale as offensive personally, not that my opinion matters since I‘m not one. Makes me think of those Brazilian shemales that look better than many girls do. Guess when you want something you don‘t take it for granted like some, and work harder at what you desire), while there are those too who are born male but feel much more in common and comfortable with being female (I think that with all the variations nature creates we can‘t say such tendencies are always “choice“. It stands to reason some people would be born this way, just like so many other possibilities). So it might not be the usual thing we are used to, but I can’t say it makes no sense, especially if it makes sense to those doing it.

And I know that not all sissies or cross dressers, or even shemales are homosexual. Many are straight in that while they dress or behave like women, they aren’t attracted to men (though I guess that would make them gay in a sense, just sorta lesbian in a way?). I know I’m probably not phrasing things right or the way its supposed to be said, but it’s a complex issue and I’m not overly familiar with it.

And these people aren’t all sissies. That‘s a separate group under the same general heading. There is a similarity in their appreciation of the female, but to lump all together would be confuse things.

I guess it’s not that cross dresser or transgender seems odd to me. Those who want to be the opposite sex in a way that reflects women in the common way we see them every day. Like dressing and behaving as women really do. That makes sense in a way, because its something we see, and would fit the idea of someone who feels they are of that sex and what that sex really is.

It’s more the extreme or overblown version that is femme but not really female as we usually see it. Like I said I’m not seeking to make fun of it, more wondering what’s the attraction and where does it come from. I mean it’s not even really female its something female-like, so where does the attraction and idea come from.

Like the sissy little girl style thing. Grown men dressing up not so much like women but some kinda caricature of women where they are way overly femme and prissy, or even somewhat childlike in costume form. What is the “why” behind that. Like what’s the turn on and fascination, because I know that those who love this fetish really get into it deeply.

And there is such a range to what all of these people like. Sissy behavior being the common link, but some want it to be forced feminization mixed even with forced bisexual acts and sexual humiliation. While others don’t really get that much into sexual acts at all, being interested entirely with the dressing and behaving, with no intercourse. Just something done for themselves. It seems like it’s a very broad fetish.

And I wonder if the “forced” crowd really should be lumped in with the “choice” people. Like those into forced feminization, if its really the feminization that they are into or more the idea of humiliation, sexual domination and forced femdom activity.

While the ones who choose to be sissies, and get fully into all it entails by choice, if they are really the true “sissy” community, while the others are more BDSM.

I don’t know if there is internal conflict within the sissy community. I’m not trying to be funny, it’s just that within each general group there always seems to be factions that see things differently.

Like, is there conflict between that forced feminization group who seems to like it more femdom, sexual and even humiliating, and then those who are more lifestyle-ish? Do the lifestyle-ish people feel the BDSM types are a mockery of what they are in some way?

Like I keep saying, I’m not trying to insult anyone, so if my phrasing is off, don’t read it that way because that’s not how it’s meant. I’m into things people call “sick” so I’m not gonna start throwing stones at anyone (like femdom cbt).

I know Domina Amanda has written things about both forced feminization and true sissy training, usually from a very sexual viewpoint as would fit a femdom blog. But when talking to actual people she naturally treats each as an individual, beyond just sexual domination and fetish play.

I know her move to San Francisco was partly motivated by a transgender friend she has and works with. She said something once about the only men she truly respects on a level anywhere close to her own are ones born in a man’s body, but with the soul of a female.

(I‘ve noticed also that the shemale references she has made have always been from the stance of domination and shemale dominatrix, like that shemale enforcer she wrote about in one of her BDSM stories. I think she likes their company and sharing slaves with them).

But when I’ve asked her things like this she tends to say the best people to ask are people who are this themselves. They deserve the respect of being allowed to explain how they feel, if they want to, without anyone outside trying to define or limit them, no matter what the intention. Just be open minded and remember that there are always people who will think what you are into is just as weird as what you might think they are.

She gets hostile around negativity towards this subject because I think she has a transsexual friend who was hurt in some way, but that‘s none of my business. It‘s just a guess off of reactions I‘ve seen her have to idiots in some chat rooms.

Well, anyway, that’s what I was thinking about today and I wrote it all off the top of my head as I am sure you can tell. I’ll probably have a bunch of people telling me what I’ve said isn’t “correct” but that’s fine. I’m not trying to define anything, just wondering so people saying constructive things isn’t a problem.

And the title to this post - In no way do I expect to find a single "why" out there, nor do I think there is one. People have all different reasons and personalities.

- maleslave

I know Domina Amanda likes sissies very much (she‘s extremely open minded, as I suppose someone that deeply into female domination and BDSM would have to be). She currently has a sissy maid that lives near her and is often in her home. This is a practice she says she cannot do without, and no matter where she is living she always searches for a good sissy maid to oversee the domestic tasks in her home. She's often said no dominatrix should be without at least one.

This most recent one is a Victorian style maid she’s had for I think more than a year now, and is so deeply along in feminization that Domina Amanda only refers to her in the feminine “she/her“. I know she speaks highly of the formal dinners her maid prepares and serves for special occasions. This one I think is bisexual, though I know he/she is kept in chastity most of the time.

Domina Amanda’s latest sissy audio can be found here - Sissy Audio - Sweetie is a Pink Panty Tease Model

And the sissy school link I gave in the first paragraph will take you to the rest of her feminization audio clips.

She is not currently working as a dominatrix (in the sense of owning or working for a prefessional femdom dungeon), since her time in grad school and at work occupies much of her time. But she’s still deeply involved with the BDSM community, having a number of personal slaves that live locally and one bisexual puppy girl that is with her at all times - “it’s only proper for the superior female to be surrounded by those meant to serve her… and it’s only natural for the dominant female to do what she was born to - dominate. Just as it’s only natural for the masses to do what they were born to - be my slaves ~laughs~.”

At the invitation of a friend, she recently began doing domination phone sex again as a further outlet for her own sexual fantasies and compulsions. Her strong sex drive and uninhibited approach to enjoying it is part of why she thinks she could never live in the country, as much as she thinks it’s nice there. Diversity of people and sexual outlets are a must for her, and she has the constant drive to meet and "explore" new "possibilities" ("possibilities" being what she calls other human beings that she chooses to explore through sexual domination). “There are all different kinds of people out there… it isn’t that some are good and some bad… it’s just a matter of figuring out how best you can use them for your own pleasure. Bad people are only bad because they are in need of someone to put them in their place. No slave is worthless, you just have to know how to exploit them in a way that makes them worthwhile to you ~grinz~.”

Domination phone sex is something she has been involved with in the past, and it was her great knowledge and notoriety in the BDSM community that led to her being offered a job as a private contractor with the company she now works with. Due to the depth of her real life experiences, she has quickly grown to be one of the most popular Mistresses involved there, and one of the top sexual domination operators.

Domina Amanda sees domination phone sex as an interesting variation on the real face-to-face thing. The primary attraction for her is the nature of the medium and possible content. The nature of the medium - world wide phone network - allows an incredible variety of callers from all over the planet, and a near endless source of new people to "violate and corrupt". In terms of content, since domination phone sex is largely fetish fantasy, the possibilities can go further into the extreme, not just what is being done, but where and how. Cruel femdom torture sessions on the phone can be held to realistic limits, or founded in completely fanciful stories that would be impossible to do in real life. Whatever the case, the medium presents its own set of options for sexual domination that she feels any dominatrix would at the very least find interesting.

She is also writing an online diary where she shares her experiences and opinions on BDSM and female domination. These experiences are often related through the telling of femdom stories taken from things she has done in her life. Not really written in a true story form, they are more glimpses into her cruel mind, shared in a very conversational style (though she has written some fictional femdom stories too, like her giantess tales and those of her alter-ego - Demoness Amanda, BDSM stories).

- maleslave

Lovelier when practiced. I practice it often. When you catch me talking to myself, that's just my daily struggle to understand who I am spilling over. Sure, it sounds weird, but then again, I never thought of myself as normal. Who is normal now, anyway? Odd is the new black.

Lucas and I talked last night and somewhere in between Tagaytay and treating patients with nana, he shared some thoughts about my favorite subject... ME!

So according to my doctor, I am harsh, violent, and hurtful. 

"What's that? What's that term? You are... you are... Iya, you are a dominatrix!"
"No kaya! Sakalin kita eh."

So much for self defense.

I told him I think I'm still two levels away from being one. I don't play with knives. I don't have a gun. I haven't been in a fistfight or a bitchfight for more than five years. My idea of bondage is scarves. For crying out loud, I'm not the one who owns handcuffs!

I could have simply ignored his observation (which sounded more like a conclusion) if only I have not been friends with him since puberty. Time is relative, I know, but there's something about his memory that I can't quite contest. There might also be one or two incidents that can support his claim.

I suddenly became concerned about the impression I give others.

"Hey... kind naman ako ha."
"Yes, you are."
"And gentle?"
"I'm sure you have a gentle side, you just don't show it to people. You're like the sun in Seattle."

Justice said I am incapable of being dull, and hopefully I don't become dangerously sharp. So what am I now? A knife?

A few scratches and tiny bruises can't hurt that much.

I feel like asking all my frienemies if I am indeed harsh, violent, and hurtful. I will not use the word dominatrix, because some shithead perverts don't know it also means demanding.

If I ask you, try to think of a way in which you can lie to me and say I am gentle, kind, and compassionate.

If you fukken piss me off, I'll... I'll...

I'll have to think of something first.

Well maybe later.

For now, I have to get back to my introspection and scrutinize my way into a clearcut category of me.

(Not that I have to, I just want to. At least for now. And yeah, he also said that I can't live a day without meeting a quota. For someone who just reappreared in my life, he knows me damn well. Haha.)

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listening to: The Cure - Friday i'm In Love

What the heck is Barbie into these days? (And who knew Ken was the submissive type!?!)

A new Barbie, scheduled to be released in September, has some folks seeing red. The UK-based watchdog group Christian Voice has called the doll "filth" stating that, "Barbie has always been on the tarty side and this is taking it too far. A children’s doll in sexually suggestive clothing is irresponsible."

But is this a case of Barbie being sexually suggestive? Or is the doll simply an homage to a popular comic book heroine?

"Black Canary Barbie" is a Barbie rendition of a DC Comic superhero of the same name. She's been around since 1947 - including appearances as part of the popular Justice League series - and has always been wearing the same getup from day one: fishnet stockings, a leather jacket and high heel boots.

There have already been previous action figure renditions of the character, and putting her in any other costume would be like Superman without the tights.

So why all the fuss over a Barbie version of the character? Has Mattel taken things too far by dressing Barbie like a dominatrix? Or has Christian Voice singled out Barbie because she's an easy target? (No pun intended.)

Right now it’s gone femdom CBT. No sex toys yet, just her leather gloves crushing, twisting and pulling. I love it but it makes me cringe too. That and the heavy rope bondage. The image she puts in my head of that female domination scene is so hot.

Watching something like that, or reading about it turns me on so much, but I can’t imagine having such torture done to me. To me, what’s down there seems too fragile, and yet I have witnessed serious femdom CBT before, and the capacity for the male genitalia to take punishment is beyond what one would expect. Maybe it’s that sense of threat and impossibility that gets a rise out of me, I don’t know but I like it and admit the BDSM fetish attracts me. The thought of being her helpless bondage slave gets my heart pounding. Think too much and my head spins. But I think that if I ever met Domina Amanda I would coward out. I know she is coming back to NYC this Fall, and will be making an appearance at the femdom dungeon of that dominatrix friend of hers I’ve written about here.

I will continue the posts about Domina Amanda’s past in a couple days. Until then visit her femdom diary to read more about her from her - Domina Amanda - she posts like mad to that thing. Not dozens of posts weekly, but frequent and long.

- maleslave

Domina Amanda's femdom BDSM stories are always about things she has really done. They're more reflections and experiences than they are stories really. Best parts arent even when she describes what she did, but how into it she was. This beautiful dominatrix (this guy talks to her a lot and tries to find out more details about things she mentions in her femdom diary, then he posts them to his with her permission) talking about how the cruel things she's doing to some slave gets her off. How much she likes to make men scream and suffer sexually, using them so throughly that they are unable to move when she is done with them. And as you read her words you can feel the devious smile that's on her face, and sadistic joy in her eyes as she remembers the moment she is talking about. Her attitude so fits what she looks like, and what she is into.

You can find this BDSM story here - cruel femdom. It's in 3 parts right now and looks like at least one or two more to go. The primary themes are a mix of rope bondage, voyeurism, and sexual domination. It would appear that the next chapter is going to see some femdom CBT, and she has already played with one of those leather whips she loves so much. And the male slave that is with her is of course "suffering" under some tight rope bondage, as one would expect from Domina Amanda.

Best part for me is the end of the latest post, but I'll shut up there. I like it when she gets all cruel femdom on helpless slaves, but I'm such a coward myself. Weird how someone can be so turend on by sexual domination, femdom BDSM and everything like that, and yet totally frozen when it comes to taking the leap into being the target of the abuse I love to imagine. All I've been able to do so far is make dominatrix phone sex calls, read BDSM erotica and watch femdom themed movies, besides my own fetish fantasies. I like some crazy stuff so I think it's probably best I stop there LOL. When I say my thing is cruel femdom I'm not joking.

- maleslave

Dripping red blood.

One afternoon I was having a pretty raging PMS melt down in the kitchen.  My poor girlfriend was just trying to calm me down when I pulled my dress off and threw it n the kitchen table.  Standing there naked except for a pair of black stockings and pointy-toed stilettos I reached between my legs and pulled my tampon out.  I held it right above my head hollering some madness about the pain of being a woman.  Then I squeezed my tampon all over my tits. The blood came down in a stream.  It splattered on my chest and ran into three different rivers.  One went right down my midline, pooled in my belly button, and continued down to meet my bush.  The other two cascaded off my breasts shooting onto the kitchen floor like a couple of waterfalls.  Waterfalls of blood.  It was a big mess.  I was hysterical.  Blood was dripping down my thighs and my girlfriend just stood there watching the whole thing, stunned.

Yep., I like to play with blood.  It doesn’t gross me out, freak me out, or make me squeamish.  I like the way it smells – a little like seaweed, full of iron.  I like the way it looks, the way it dries all crusty to the skin.  I like the way it tastes -- earthy.

Like that afternoon in the kitchen demonstrates, I get a little overwhelmed when I have my period.  Hey, who doesn’t?  Everyone of us who bleeds from our genitalia for days on end can tell you that there is an emotional rollercoaster involved with the female cycle.  It makes us bitchy, sad, hungry, horny, and totally fucking insane.
I like to play with blood.

The conversation started after The Muse sent me a scene he had "discovered" which involved a light bit of CBT (cock & ball torture) and can be easily added to our regular play. It was a good way for him to show me what he would like to experience without having to describe at this time. I know it can be scary to ask for things, and I hope to be open and encouraging at all times. It opened up the ability for me to ask questions about all sorts of things and from there it's just been a honeymoon of emotions! Plus I already know the addiction, he will want this small stuff at first but I foresee many toys in our future for his CBT tendencies!

One of my main concerns is that in my past experience, I was a sub and now am learning about being a Domme. I naturally love to serve and to make someone happy sends me into orbit. Last Halloween I was lucky to find someone who was experienced in flogging, paddling, caning and other lovely sensations and got to participate in a discipline scene. It was enough to get me soaking the sheets.

With The Muse and I, our roles sexually have been very intertwined and the dominance switches throughout our play. I speak of only the natural dominance of making things progress and we gave what the other needed. I'm naturally a decisive and confident person in my daily life. If in a group of people, whether a group of 3 or a group of 20, I seem to fall into that leadership role and get things done. Therefore I have the natural inclination to lead but sexually I've been one to follow. I always felt naive about things and worried that coming off too strong was actually a turn off for guys...I see now, it isn't. I want to be a good Mistress and am working on shedding my own doubts and pre-conceived ideas. I know fear of actually hurting someone is a strong one to get over. We are conditioned not to hurt others and while I know personally of the pleasure on the receiving end, I still have that thought running in the back of my mind, if I push too hard, too fast, will I ruin The Muse?

I am working hard to learn from Dom/Dommes within the scene and already own both The New Topping Book and The New Bottoming Book, both written by Easton & Hardy. They were highly recommended through many sites on the web. Quick and good reads. Okay, actually I've only read the bottoming one and am going to start the topping one tomorrow. Right now my mind is racing on so many ideas, I can not be expected to concentrate on reading!

I have long suspected that he would indeed get a great deal of pleasure out of being a sub but I also know he has a strong streak to tease and create scenes that drive me wild. I'm suspecting he may be surprised at how lovely having the control given over to someone is going to feel...but for now our D/s relationship will be based in communication and finding more things we'd like to each try and then creating our first scene. I've also been reading a bit about women who Top from the bottom and think that is something that may evolve for us. I'm also seeing that to Domme, in its own way is serving as well. We care for and hold the trust of our subs in our hands.

I hope to hear from The Muse soon. I sent a video to him about Fire Play (thank you the lovely person who left me a comment and I saw this one his blog site.) While we are no where near that, I had never seen such a thing and was captivated.

Mmmmm, I am lost in thought again on seeing him soon. I shall write more later!

I'm single. I'm a curvy girl, and you may have guessed as such by my chosen artwork. I am very proud of my size and my curves and make no apologies or plan to tell you about any diets I will be starting. I'm in my mid thirties and a mom. I have been a swinger for well over two years, and have been "dipping my toes" into the BDSM world for about a year now.

The swinger thing started back a few years ago when I was married and we thought we'd share this wonderful thing called sex with friends. We had an active and really good sex life. Just thought it'd be fun to combine friendship with sex and expand our own horizons. It was good, bad, fun, exciting, frustrating and I'm still in it. I will most likely delve into what one should and shouldn't do in the swing lifestyle when with a partner or someone you truly love. I parted with my exhub on somewhat amicable terms and it was not due to swinging but certainly did complicate a few things. (Trust me, a story for another time!)

The BDSM thoughts were started by a lovely movie called, "The Secretary" with James Spader and Maggie Gyllenhaal. I believe I saw it in the fall of 2003. I was at home, alone and channel surfing when this interesting monologue started up and Lee (Maggie) was sitting on a bench outside a large building. The events that followed had me mesmerized and I was horrified at my own excitement at having watched such a movie and enjoying it. I was glued to the TV and when it was over, I was left questioning my own sanity. I tried erasing it from my mind and refused to tell anyone I had watched it. This was going to be my secret and no one would know...

One afternoon near Christmas of 2006, while pouring through the swinger websites, I said, "Gee, being tied up or spanked might be fun." I think I made (then) hubby's jaw drop. He said, "I've noticed you've been hinting more about such things. We can try it." Things went along somewhat smoothly but slower than I wanted. I would push gently and ask for things but the swing world was his addiction and BDSM was mine. I see now that we just were not compatible on this issue and it was truly the beginning to the end of a good long marriage. I wanted to only explore the BDSM on a private level and I could tell he wanted to take it to a public/multi-partner level.

During the end of the marriage, I had a steady swing partner that was an absolute joy to be with at anytime. We were becoming best friends on so many levels. But make note, I was not giving my heart to this person. He was my friend. He and I shared a deep friendship and I did notice I cared for him in a loving way. I knew there was an infatuation that was growing but was still faithful to my (then) hubby and knew it would never be something that I would allow to take over. However, it seemed (then) hubby had other ideas and did fall in love with someone else. My marriage was officially over.

I grieved. It was not an easy process to let go of something and someone you have known for 20 years. It was the best choice but it was still hurtful. I am still recovering. I sometimes long for the comfort of knowing what tomorrow brings. I had plans and goals. Now I have day-to-day living and am slowing formulating new goals. My decisions are all my own to make and that can be scary.

During this time, my steady swing partner grew into something even more than infatuation. He is, my band-aid. He can not give me commitment and while I think that's what I want, in some ways, I am happy he can't. I love him. He knows this and he returns my love. Ours is a relationship that has no goal. It took me awhile to realize that no goal does not necessarily mean no hope.

Plus, remember I said this was a new and exciting part of my life... My friend/stead swing partner (who will now be known as "My Muse") and I have agreed upon a new sexual level for our relationship!

Welcome to the girl-next-door's journey through BDSM!!

Nun ein Beispiel für eine einfachen Tagesablauf für einen Sklaven.

Vergessen sie dabei nicht ihrem Sklaven zu jeder Zeit Bestrafungen und Demütigungen zukommen zu lassen.

Der Sklave steht eine Stunde (den genauen Zeitpunkt bestimmt die Herrin) vor seiner Herrin auf. Reinigt sich gründlich, erledigt die am Abend zuvor befohlene Hausarbeiten und bereitet der Herrin das Frühstück nach ihren persönlichen Wünschen zu.

Der Sklave weckt je nach ihren wünschen die Herrin und serviert das Frühstück ans Bett oder am befohlenden Ort. Anschließend unterstützt der Sklave die Herrin bei der Morgentoilette.

Jegliche Tagesnahrung darf der Sklave nur vom Boden einnehmen, die art der Nahrung bestimmt die Herrin. Die Hände werde dabei auf den Po gelegt und dürfen nicht benutzt werden, wobei evtl. die Nahrung vorher in kleine Portionen zerlegt werden kann.

Verläßt die Herrin das Haus, verabschiedet sich der Sklave durch Küssen ihrer Schuhe. Anschließend erledigt er gewissenhaft alle befohlenen Aufgaben. Sollte alles zufrieden stellend erledigt sein kann er die verbleibende zeit für befohlene Freizeitaktivitäten nutzen, über alles ist natürlich Bericht zu erstatten.

Ihre Rückkehr hat der Sklave im Vorraum kniend zu erwarten und um ihr seine Freude über ihre Rückkehr auszudrücken sollte sich sein Schwanz in sichtlich erregtem Zustand befinden. Zur Begrüßung hat der Sklave wieder ihre Schuhe zu küssen, anschließend werden die Aufgaben des Sklaven überprüft und entsprechend geahndet.

Über die gemeinsame Zeit kann von der Herrin frei verfügt werden. Auch gemeinsame Freizeitaktivitäten werden von der Herrin bestimmt.

Am Abend muß der Sklave einen Bericht über die Verfehlungen, egal ob sie geahndet wurden oder nicht vorlegen (das Strafmaß kann mit erwähnt werden), die Herrin entscheidet dann wie weiter zu verfahren ist.

Jeden Abend vor dem zu Bett gehen hat der Sklave die Herrin auf Knien nach ihren Wünschen für das Frühstück und anfallende Morgenaufgaben zu befragen. Anschließend bittet er seine Herrin ihm einen Platz für die Nachtruhe zuzuweisen.

Working mostly by night in the femdom BDSM scene, she also attended a local university, taking classes there in pursuit of a degree in Biochemistry. While the choice of major may seem surprising to those of ignorant assumptions, Domina Amanda is known to be extremely intelligent and very well read - two characteristics which clearly fit her naturally dominant personality. Philosophy, Politics and Dietetics are other subjects she has studied extensively and continues to examine. Obviously also, she possesses a wealth of knowledge regarding topics such as femdom BDSM, sexual domination, and more importantly, the dynamics of dominant and submissive personalities beyond just sexual situations.

Her primary hobbies mirror her professional femdom life, as obviously does her sexuality. Her life as a dominatrix blends her interests and responsibilities perfectly, allowing her to enjoy what she most loves to do, while also providing a fitting and lucrative occupation. Even when not working as a professional dominatrix, her livelihood has almost always involved BDSM and female domination in some clear way, so she has continually been fortunate enough to blend business with what is most pleasurable to her. Personal slave ownership is something she has practiced since her teenage years, with her usually possessing multiple slaves. Since her late teens she has continuously held property, acquiring, dismissing, trading and selling as has pleased her.

Domina Amanda doesn’t watch much television, and only occasionally has time enough for movies. Her sex life occupies most of her time and she enjoys it thoroughly. As she has said in past interviews - “I don’t dream about what I wish my life could be… I simply do whatever it is that comes to my mind. My fantasies I make reality, and where there are limits I have to respect, I push as close to the edge as I can. I have no need to entertain myself by watching the lives of others, my own life is far more exciting than anything on television ~laughs~.” Those fantasies that are too extreme or unrealistic for her to enjoy fully in real life, she finds other outlets for (one example can be found in the giantess stories she has written - "Giantess, The Huntress", which while being obvious femdom fantasy, can still be explored through writing and phone domination).

While working primarily out of her own private femdom dungeon, and still occasionally at that of her dominatrix friend’s (you can read more about how they met here - Tease and Denial, Goddess), Domina Amanda also made numerous guest appearances at local and regional area professional BDSM houses. She did the same on the West Coast, particularly in conjunction with special femdom events, fetish parties and BDSM festivals she was scheduled to attend. Some of the contacts she made while in California have subsequently led to other BDSM orientated business ventures she continues to be involved with today (which eventually led to her move from NYC).

- maleslave

The space is big, lots of space to work with, beautifully decorated, tons of toys all over the walls, the throne is this beautiful burgundy high back club chair fit for that Queen that I am. Ideal for foot worship sessions and over the knee spankings without my having to support all of the sub's weight.

There are mirrors all around and very high ceilings for suspension... It's paradise for perverts!

can't wait to spank you there ;)

~A